So now I'm further along the 'continuum' ~ sequence of elemental change, what next?
I have been taking my time along the grief path and in so doing have been wondering if there might be some advantage in relating my experience? Is this a possible worthwhile endeavor? Telling my story of grief as it unfolds for the mutual benefit of myself and others? For writing has become an integral part of my creative life and I have realized it's importance particularly at this time as the days can seem long and without purpose, or at least not being able to share that purpose with 'my love' after his parting. I have been plunged into a new landscape of confusion, not knowing which direction to turn, this is new territory for me, I will be telling my story on the hoof!
I've been visiting a couple of support websites not having experienced this type of intense grief before in my life and yes support is what I need! I have lots of care from family, friends and online friends but specialized support maybe is something worth investigating I thought, albeit with some skepticism! In the past I'd heard support groups can be places where lots of crying and bemoaning life's lot is common place and for me this would have the opposite effect of what I hope for, something positive to take forward. I don't want to be leaving any site or support group feeling negative tones, leaving me in the same helpless position! However, I do appreciate that for some talking therapies/groups help release the burden of pent-up emotional grief.
So for me the criteria for my investigations would be how the session or reading left me, did it make me feel hopeful and up-lifted or take me back to the grief-laden feeling? I'm not saying grief should be rushed as I know it takes time and according to the 'professionals' there is no right or wrong way to grieve, but as far as I am concerned life is a gift and, 'looking for that gift in the everyday' philosophy suits me, it's an imperative that I do not undermine this habit by overly dwelling on grief. Having said that I know there will be grief triggers, I will have to find my way around these, this is the challenge and as with all challenges we face ~
'the warrior woman must rise'!
BTW I visited two support sites today, the latter made me laugh see why, it's not heavy honestly, will only take one click and not much reading, just visioning ~ LOL
Visit ~
Heart~Held
'the warrior woman must rise'!
BTW I visited two support sites today, the latter made me laugh see why, it's not heavy honestly, will only take one click and not much reading, just visioning ~ LOL
Visit ~
Heart~Held
Comments
Grieving is a process and a journey. Don't let anyone hurry you. I wish you comfort in knowing that you are loved by others.
Nonnie
love what you are unfolding hear sister....so much so
we need to talk about grief here in North American we don't deal with death, the dying or grief well at all...I have a place you might want to check it...I will email you the link...
you are in my heart as you navigate this new world...and by the way, from where I stand you are doing wonderfully
love and light Sue
thank you for being here. thank you for your remarkably courageous heart and your generous willingness to include us on this most challenging journey.
i love you dear friend. i am thinking of the compassion of ram dass;"we are all just walking each other home."
i am holding your hand dear sue, walking right beside you into the new mysterious landscape that unfolds before us all. knowing you are holding my hand too is a great comfort.
xo